Well Kristin, you seemed to have answered most of your question for me. Unfortunately, those 2 small balls are going to keep your little boy marking your fiance smell as long as he has them ( the balls, that is) as he is trying to dominate your fiance. Firstly, whatever you do, never shout or smack him for the peeing, as it will become an attention seeking problem. If he wees in the house, or on your fiances things, clean it up with toilet paper, and take the toilet paper to wherever you want him to toilet as dogs like to smell where there last deposit was left. Get some surgical spirits and put into a spray bottle and liberally spray the areas he has marked. When he pee's outside give him lots of love and attention, completely ignore him when he does it inside.
Next you need to let your boy know that he is not he leader of the pack, but that your fiance is. Here are 4 things you must start doing to reverse the rank. When your pooch comes up to you to demand attention, cross your arms and look up, never giving attention of his terms. The minute he is sitting calmly, give him some love. You don't want to stop loving your pooch, but you want to love him on your terms and at the correct time. So give him just as much love, or more, but only when he is sitting calmly and not asking for it. When you feed him, pretend to eat out of his bowl, then prentend the food tastes horrid, spit it out and then give it to him. If he walks away from the food, pick it up and only feed him again at his next meal. When people come to visit tell them to ignore your pooch until after they have said hello to you and all the other humans and only when he is calm can they greet him. When you get home from work, do not greet him when he is all excited, say hello to the rest of your family first, and only when he is calm, greet him, even if it takes a long time. You don't want to reward that anxious state he is in when you have been out and you want to make your comings and goings as boring as possible. Always go through entrances and exits first, as the first one in and out is the leader.
Please keep me posted.
That's what I thought - I have always thought he was a little afraid of my fiance to be honest as he often cowers if he tries to play with him and puts his ears back and wiggles submissively as if he doesnt know HOW to play with him. With me he is fine, ears up, tail wagging and game on if i throw his ball. He just looks at my fiance like he is mad is he throws it for him. We are trying to overcome it by them spending more time playing, walking and feeding together so I never thought he would try and dominate him.
I never thought about surgical spirits - thanks, i will give that a try :)
I must admit that visitors are an issue, they both get very excited (the dogs that is not the fiance!) Probably because we dont entertain that often. perhaps a planned trial run will help to practise??
When my fiance comes home he leaves them outside until they are calm. I know I am at fault because I am just so excited to see my dogs when I get home and love letting them in and saying hello. From tonight onwards I will start waiting until they are calm before even greeting them.
Is he doing this to my fiance simply because he is a man? Do you think they are aware of that? Im just thinking, if my fiance tells him to do something like get off the couch he rolls over, hides his face and pretends like if he cant see him then it's ok and wont move. He has done it to me a few times as well but i simply pick him up and get him moving. my fiance expects him to listen and he could shout until he is blue in the face, the dog wont move. neither one of us shout at them though, im just saying even if he did it wouldnt make a difference. is this also a sign of dominance? Maybe he does dominate me already and im just too blind to notice and find a way around his behaviour like moving him rather than him moving himself when told to????? He just doesnt pee on my things! Actually the more i write the more I think that he is dominant, just not aggressiviely so.
When your fiance comes home tell him to let the pooches into the house and to ignore them while they are hectic in the house, as soon as they are calm to give them attention.
I must say to your fiance, their should only be 1 set of balls walking around your house, and they should hopefully belong to him!
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